Approaching A Woman Online

Approaching A Woman Online

By: Jason King

Approaching a woman online, and getting it right is the most important thing to do after getting your profile ready. You need to get this part of your online dating spot on to make everything else you have done so far worthwhile.

You're not going to get that first e-mail right first time so you're own trial and error will be part of finding out what approach works best for you.

When you have found a single that you would like to contact make sure you read her profile through thoroughly. This is very important as your e-mail will be based around the information she has put in it. A woman won't put every detail in her profile to then respond to a message saying "I think you're hot would you like a chat." This might be the way men want to get approached but women are different.

You need to write an e-mail, and mention things that caught your eye in her profile. You have to make your e-mail stand out from all the others the single woman has had that day. You may even have sent the only e-mail, the rest just might be some flirts that other single men send to about 30 other women. This will make your message the first one she looks at.

Mentioning some things from her profile will show her that you have read it. Most men will just send a flirt to someone because they like the photograph. Women need more than this to send you a reply back. You need to make it personal this will at least get your message read. After this she will check your profile, and if she likes the look of that you will get your reply.

If you're going to add humor to your message make sure you aim it at yourself. You have to keep it in the flow of the e-mail though. Don't just start writing a joke just to look funny as this will just make her cringe. If humor isn't good coming from you you're better off leaving it out of your e-mail.

When approaching a woman online effectively you have to keep your e-mails fairly short. You don't need to start telling them about you. You will have plenty of time for this once you have had a reply. Just use your first e-mail to find out about them, and make the recipient feel your interest in her. This will make her feel better if your the only single man to show some real interest in your e-mail.

Never start pestering anyone. If they don't respond to your e-mail then move onto someone else. Your e-mails are not going to get replied to every time. Once the single women has read them they will then look at your profile. They have to be attracted to you for you to get a reply. If they're not attracted to you just get over it and move on.

If you stick to approaching women this way you will get a much higher reply rate than 95% of online dating service users.

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Tips For The First Email

Tips For The First Email by Claire Brent

Congratulations! If you have made it to the email stage of online dating, you're practically engaged. Well, maybe not "practically," but you're well on your way to securing a personalized relationship with someone who has the potential to bring about loads of happiness in your life.

Sending that first email can seem like a risky move. As you're typing away rigorously at your keyboard, you may be second-guessing just about every line you compose. "Is this too gushy?" "Will he understand what I'm trying to say?" "Is she really interested in me at all?" No matter what has caused you to sit down and write that first email, one thing's for certain: you must follow-through.

Self-doubt and insecurity are huge reasons why many Internet relationships fizzle. Unless you have the gusto to jump into a potential dating situation and build a love empire from scratch, you run the risk of coming up just short of the email phase with every new relationship.

However, you probably know that not all emails are the same. Often, actually, when you start a new relationship online, both parties do not feel quite the same way about each other. Therefore, many emails come unsolicited and, therefore, remain unanswered. If you happen to be in the category of folks that send regular emails but rarely get one in return, then you, too, need these email tips.

Now for the chase: Top 5 sure-fire tips for composing that must-return email:

1. Avoid coming across as being too familiar. Using language such as, "Sweety," "Honey Buns," and "Doll face," might be kosher for your established friends, but when you are starting a new relationship, tone the nicknames down a few notches. In fact, consider toning them down to a complete zero for at least the first few emails.

2. Use a solid email address. Keep in mind that your choice of email address name says a lot about your personality. Unless you are truly willing to represent yourself in a certain manner, choose your name wisely. For example, if you are looking for a lasting relationship based on mutual respect, then an email address such as sexmaster4u@xxx.com may not be the best introduction into your soul. Using your full name is usually acceptable, but will potentially expose your true identity.

3. Be thoughtful. When sending your email, include niceties such as, "I hope you're having a wonderful day." This may seem like an obvious first step, but for many first-timers, they might not understand that an email is not intended to be a manifesto; rather, it's an introduction and alternative means of communication.

4. Ask questions, but not too many. The typical first email should have a few (note: a few) questions about your partner. Ask them how their day was. Try to find out some of the things they enjoy doing in their spare time. Asking questions will help to relay your interest in your partner. Keep in mind that too many questions, however, will start to make your partner feel like he or she is at the Spanish inquisition. Ask enough so that it is easy to answer the questions, but not so much that the person feels he or she has to fill out a questionnaire.

5. Don't be too forward. Be firm with your intentions from your email, but avoid being too forward. The Internet is a hotbed for seedy activity. Therefore, you must be diligent about guarding your reputation and trust with your crush. Let the person know that you are interested in learning more about them and potentially developing a relationship, but don't come right out and ask for sex, money or a place to stay. As with any relationship, there needs to be a series of events that build to that conclusion if the relationship will be sustainable.

Now that you have reviewed these few simple first email tips, get out there are do some typing. Keep in mind that if you fail to get a response to your emails, there may be a latent issue in your message composition that you need to explore. Next time, try running those email duds by a friend before sending them onto your cyber crush. Good luck!
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How to Seduce Her and Get Her to Trust You - ONLINE!

How to Seduce Her and Get Her to Trust You - ONLINE!
By: Ovi Dogar


Before you start looking for the woman that you want, make a clear idea of the type of woman you are after in your mind.

Now you can set some specific details, which are more important for you, like: she has to be a good mother, a sexy blonde or a smart brunet, the housekeeper type of woman or a career woman... and don't forget the age and the relation type you're after.

This will allow you to choose the right online dating site for you (www.eBridex.com is a new one and might work well for you). Then, you will have to make your profile as complete and realistic as you can. Take time to view some women profiles that contain the specific details you have fixed and pick one, maximum two of them.

If you are interested in more than two women, never, but never talk online with more of them in the same time. Women can feel if you don't give them your complete attention.

Now cames the hard part, and the most important: the approach part: Don't forget! In online dating the most important thing is to GET HER TO TRUST YOU!

If you selected a site that gives you the possibility to contact women by e-mail, your first e-mail is the most important. Introduce yourself and say something specific, that is special about HER (you should read her profile carefully for this).

Tell her the location on the web where she can find your profile, and be direct and ask for an online talk (date) to get to know you each other better. Don't write a long email.

If you have fixed an online date, do not be late! By doing this you will lose her from the very begining.

When you're approaching her online, after you break the ice with an open question, the very next thing you should say or do is to introduce yourself. Just use your first name then allow the woman you're talking to to offer you her name (if she is using a nickname in her profile). Pause for a moment. If she doesn't offer it, ask her what her name is. Then, and this is very important, use her name in the very next sentence you are writing to her. Using her name works like magic to make her more interested in you.

Never talk about your ex in the first dates and don't forget the women don't want to be a shoulder for you to cry on. Be positive and enthusiastic. Make her laugh and feel good about spending time talking with you.

The next thing you want to say or do is compliment her. Call attention to some detail about her, and flatter her in a totally positive way. Be sure to avoid obvious compliments at all costs.

Also, always find ways to agree with her. Never disagree with a woman when you first meet her. One exception, which works all the time is if she initiates a conversation about sex with you.

One time when I was talking with a women online she started to tell me that she would like to see me only with a towell on me and I said to her that “Hey.. don't you think things are moving a little too fast in this relationship?” :). At the first time we date she confesed me that she only came to the date because I have impressed her with that line. Imagine that. :)

Keep in mind that if a woman likes you or would like to know you better, she will give you free information to follow up on. If she's not attracted to you, she won't give you much of anything and it will be very difficult to maintain a decent conversation with her.

At first time, don't talk more then one hour or one hour and a half, then pretend that you have to go, but don't forget to tell her that you have a great time talking to her and never be shy about asking her for her phone number. Be direct. You can say something like, "I have to be going now. But I'd love to hear your voice, sometime. Can I call you?" Without the all important phone number, you will never get anywhere with a woman.

Do not call her in the same day you have talk with her online, suspans can be healty sometimes. :)

Good luck, and be smart! She will be “on fire” just to get to know you better.
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What Women Think When Are Reading Your Online Profiles?

What Women Think When Are Reading Your Online Profiles?

By: Ovi Dogar

The biggest "quality" of men is their commodity, am I right? And when they are online they want to relax and are forgetting to be efficient. They only want to stay there, in front of the computer and wait for women to make the first step. Even worse, they don’t bother to completely fill their profiles or just spill out a few words. Are you one of these types?

So let’s see what women believe when they are reading your online profile. The frequent sentences what you can find in men’s profiles are:

- "Just contact me and you won’t regret." and now what she thinks when she’s reading this: "What??? Next!!!"

- "I am the best and I am waiting for you." she thinks "Yeah sure, next!"

- "Who wants to know more about me just ask." or "If you want me just try your chance." she thinks "Why I would like to know more about you? You are nobody to me." The problem is that you are not giving her any reason, any impulse to contact YOU. She is browsing profiles, why should she stop from doing that?

- "You will find more about me later." she is thinking "Really? Just wait for me! Next."

The key of attracting attention to a woman is to talk about her. You can do this from the very beginning by making a profile that is addressed to HER. So be specific saying what you are really looking for. Say the things that are most important for you, the area where you would like to live with your next girlfriend, the age etc.

Writing something like: "I am a serious guy, looking for a blond haired woman, living in Pennsylvania, aged 30 - 42 years. I love children so it doesn’t bother me if you are a mother." you will make all the difference.

All women that accomplish these criteria will stop browsing another profiles thinking: "Wow, he is looking for me. I am the best for him".

You can say something about you too, but something positive and interesting. Something that would make her STOP searching. "I want three things in my life: to love, to be loved and a real family."

Keep in mind that it is more important what you are looking for than who you are. It is sad but true (excepting if you are a doomy, alcoholic, unclean, crazy guy).

So, improve your profile today if you want a full of messages inbox, tomorrow!
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Online Dating Blunders - The Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Contacting Women Online

Online Dating Blunders - The Top 10 Mistakes Men Make When Contacting Women Online by Dan and Jennifer

Here are the top ten things that you should avoid when
contacting women online. This will be the most important online
dating and relationship advice that you read all year.

Mistake #1: Sending her 'just' a wink

Most internet dating sites let you send "winks" or
"show interest" for free. But what does this say to her about
you? When that really hot girl gets your wink, she sees a guy
that's not serious about wanting to contact her and too cheap to
fork over the $20 membership fee.

What a wonderful way to start off a relationship... Not!

She also knows that a wink is an easy "cop-out". Anyone can
scroll through hundreds of online profiles and wink at
everything that moves. So, from her perspective, why should she
spend time on you when there are dozens of guys taking the time
to send her real messages every day?

Mistake #2: Not having a recent QUALITY photo in your profile

This one should be easy, but the fact is, most men do not upload
their photo. The statistics on this one are very clear. Profiles
with photos get 10 times more looks than those without; and
profiles with QUALITY photos get 4 times more looks than
profileswith poor photos.

Let me ask you... When you log on to a dating site and search,
don't you search for women with photos in their profile first?
Why would she be any different? Many women will assume that you
have something to hide if you won't post your photo - like maybe
your wife...

If you don't like your photo, have a professional one made.
Thereare many professional photo services that do nothing but
create great photos for your online dating profile.

If you want to stand a chance against the other guys out there,
upload a good quality photo. Oh, one more extremely important
note - make sure that you upload a RECENT photo. Nothing is more
disappointing than to meet someone and realize that the picture
they sent you was 20 years and 40 pounds ago!

Mistake #3: Sending a message with a boring subject

Fact #1: Guys out number girls by at least two to one on most
online dating sites and that's a conservative number.

Fact #2: Good looking girls get dozens of winks and messages in
any given day

You can have the most awesome profile and you can send her the
most intriguing message, but she may never see it because you
failed to capture her interest with the subject of your email.

Give her a reason to open your message first! It has to stand
outamong all the others, or it has a high chance of getting
deleted and never read. Spend just as much time crafting an
intriguing subject line as you do in writing the rest of your
message.

Ask her a question or specifically reference some
detail in her profile so that she will know you actually read it
and are truly interested in more than just her looks.

Mistake #4: Sending her a vague, generic or otherwise lame
message

So you took the effort to become a paying member of a dating
site, and want to make the most of your membership. But then
you came up with a standard boilerplate message, and you quickly
copied and pasted it to dozens of girls. Go you! At least that's
what you think...

Ok, reality check. Women like to feel special and important.
They can smell a lame form message a mile away, and the delete
button is always close at hand. So, why not take a different
approach? Actually read her entire profile (we know it's
painful, but do it anyway!), learn everything you can about her,
and then send her an insightful, personal message.

Remember, you're messaging her and she needs to feel that she is
the only girl in the entire world that you are interested in.
Keep your messages fairly short and concise. Compliment or make
reference to some thing or things you found interesting in her
profile.

Then, conclude each message with a "clear call to action".
Always be friendly and polite, but tell her what you would like
her to do next. Don't leave her wondering. An example is "talk
to you soon" or "drop me a line".

Mistake #5: Taking too long to respond to her message

With all the buzz around the seduction and "pick up artist"
community these days, many guys are afraid of scaring women
away by appearing too eager or desperate. So they get her
message and then wait... and wait... and wonder when it's "ok"
to answer her.

Let's clear this up. Responding promptly is not a bad thing.
It will likely help you stand out from the other dozen guys that
messaged her today. Like most opportunities in life, you're far
better off striking while the iron's hot. Get over it and
message her back. In fact, do it while she's still logged on.

Forget the "head games" and be yourself. Women are attracted to
confident men who are comfortable in their own skin. Be yourself
and you'll be fine!

Mistake #6: Asking for her personal information too soon

So you messaged this really great looking girl, and she
responded with a basic "Hi" message. Now what? You want her real
email address, her phone number, her work number, or better yet
her address so you can go there now, right?

Stop! Asking her for ANY personal information in your first
messages is a quick way to kill the relationship before it
starts. Think of two dogs approaching each other...
what do they do? They approach slowly and cautiously, and
proceed to sniff each other. Why do they do this? They're
getting to know each other. People are the same in many
respects.

Don't scare her off. Take it slow and let her get to know you
before requesting personal information.

Mistake #7: Making sexual innuendos in your first message

Yes, she's really hot and yes her profile seems flirty and
sexual... So you think it's OK to be overtly sexual when you try
to contact her, WRONG! Unless you're on AdultFriendFinder.com or
other adult site, sexual innuendos are unlikely to help you.
They'll most likely torpedo any chances you might have had with
her. So don't do it.

Mistake #8: Sending her money or a credit card number

Yes, the ever popular Nigerian (or whatever country is in on it
this month) money scam. Social networking sites, including online
dating sites, are plagued by scammers. And guys you know are
falling for it every day...

Remember, the whole "if it sounds too good to be true" idea
stillstands! If your online profile is really bad, and all of a
sudden a girl strangely resembling a supermodel emails you and
promises to make all your dreams come true, take it slow. And DO
NOT send money or other financial information to make her come to
you.

Mistake #9: Checking out her "really hot" nude photos on her
personal website

The ever popular "cam girl" phenomenon is surprising scores of
new men on a daily basis. So, what's a "cam girl?" Well, let's
say you're searching profiles on
and run across this great looking girl. She looks friendly,
approachable, and is wearing a highly suggestive outfit. To make
it better, her profile has a link to her "private website" where
you can "see more of her".

What luck! So you click on that link, and to your surprise, you
have to "verify your age by providing a credit card number".
Hmm. If you want to browse an adult site, then proceed and
enjoy.But recognize this for what it is - often a teenage high
school male pretending to be a really hot girl in order to make
money by sending happy surfers (read: you) to a pay-per-view
adult site.

Mistake #10: Not knowing what you really want

The last blunder is actually by far the most important one...

Put simply, most guys use the shotgun approach to dating and
hope to hit something, anything. Then they wonder why they're
not happy with the women they meet. Not exactly the best
approach for the most important aspect of your life, is it?

Before you join ANY online dating site, take a step back and
figure out exactly what you're looking for... What type of woman
do you really want to meet today? That way you don't waste your
time messaging a really great looking 'single mom' when you know
full well that you don't want children. If you are an
outdoorsman, you probably don't want to spend time messaging a
woman that tells you in her profile that she is allergic to the
sun. (Yet another reason to actually read her profile.)

It will be well worth your time to understand what you're really
looking for!

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About the Author

Authors and Online Dating Insiders -- Dan and Jennifer -- reveal the secrets to finding love online at www.AskDanAndJennifer.com
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